Adam Lambert on Bullying: Are We Creating Victims?
This last Friday night, Adam Lambert took to Twitter to discuss his views on bullying: namely that we need to help create a new generation of confident kids who help make other outcast children feel welcome.
His entire twitter-logue was 20 tweets long, but we took his seventeen primary ideas and listed them below with discussion afterwards:
Bullying sucks. It's true. I feel like we should focus more on helping kids cope and build a thick skin rather than focusing on the bullies?
I just don't want to see this generation develop into a bunch of victims. I want them to be empowered and ignore petty bullshit. How?
I think we should encourage kids to make new friends. Reach out to that kid eating alone at lunch. Focus in the positive.
it's a case by case thing. If someone's being so viciously bullied that its affecting their mental health - yes- huge problem we must stop
But because its become such a trendy way to identify certain kinds of typical teenage angst, I hope it's not making it worse.
The irony of course is how this is all viewed outside of school, in the adult world. The celebrity scene is a prime example.
Celebrities are bullied online, by tabloids & paps, yet there's a strong opinion in society that "we asked for this, part of the job"
Yet w/ social networking taking over, isn't society emulating celebrity culture by posting pics and updates of themselves to a broad audience
So with fame having become the new American Dream, are we punishing those who have 'made it' with our own inferiority complexities? Envy?
And btw it's one thing to constructively criticize someone's work or decisions, it's another to attack their very essence. Right?
Back to the original point, I simply wish we'd focus more energy on the victims' empowerment versus labeling anyone who's negative as a bully
The reason I brought up how society tends to view celebrity culture was to suggest the sometimes hypocritical aspect to victim/bullying.
Sometimes it seems that folks adopt an "eye for an eye" attitude instead of just rising above it. Doesn't this just become a vicious cycle?
And NO. I'm not taking sides in any of the current celeb beefs. This is a general conversation. More about society as a whole.
im not saying there shouldn't be consequences for bullies. I'm saying that HELPING folks cope and ignore is ALSO important & more proactive
Ok I've ranted enough on this soapbox that is twitter. I love a good discussion. Grateful for everyone's insight- been enlightening.
And FYI- ANYONE is welcome in this Glamily. ANYONE. Please be welcoming and kind. Quit cyber fighting.
The "current celeb beef" that Lambert mentioned probably refers to Lady Gaga's tiff with the Osbournes about bullying and Azelia Banks calling Perez Hilton "a messy faggot", two high-profile incidents that have changed the way we think about gay-friendliness and name-calling in celebrity culture. But Lambert's Twitter-logue raises a few interesting points: people who hate on celebrities and bullies who torment socially awkward kids both act as if bullying is just part of a larger game and that their targets "deserve it."
While LGBT-inclusive education seeks to make students more accepting of their LGBT classmates, anti-bullying campaigns like the 'It Gets Better' project tend to focus on sympathizing with bullied kids and the eventual prospect of growing up and leaving rather than on how kids can help others and themselves whenever bullies come a-hatin'.
But apart from forming anti-bullying parents groups and suing school districts that tolerate bullying, what's the answer? How do raise a generation of empathetic young people who help out bullied kids rather than just looking the other way?
It's a question worth asking and Lambert is apparently using his star power to keep the conversation alive.