Change Sucks

By: Gay.com
11.5.2008

Change is never an easy thing to adjust to. We would love our lives to stay comfortable and safe, with everything in its place. Unfortunately, change is inevitable.

This is how we grow, learn and create better results in our lives. If we didn't try new things, we would be missing out on all the opportunities life has to offer.

Here are four tips to help you better accept change in your life.

Prepare

You know how you personally handle change. Does it bother you? Does it scare you? Are you always the last one to adjust or accept change? It's important to think about how you've dealt with change in the past so you can plan how to handle change in the future.

Notice what happened last time you dealt with change and what the results were. If everything worked out as you planned, then you have a system in place already to handle change. If things could have been better. then this is a learning opportunity.

Ask yourself: How can I better prepare for change before it happens so I can get the results I am looking for? Taking some time to prepare for change helps you better handle it in the future. It is all about having an effective plan in place the produces the results you want.

Accept

Realizing change is going to happen helps reduce the shock when it occurs. Sometimes we can feel that change is thrown onto us. That is not the case. People aren't trying to upset us with change; they truly are trying to help improve things.

Understanding that change is a good thing can help us to have a better perspective of acceptance and to make the transition smoother. A lot of times when change occurs, we put on the brakes. It doesn't stop the change from happening. All it does is cause us to be dragged along with change. No one wants that.

Embrace

It is so easy for us to resist change by looking for all the flaws in the system. Everything has flaws, even the old way of doing things. We just got too used to them and focused more on how it worked instead.

If you start off by looking for the things that are working better with the change, then you can start seeing good results. Again, I am not asking you to turn a blind eye to the flaws but not to look for them first. Instead, allow yourself to see what benefits have been created.

Feedback

Change is a good thing, but sometimes we need to give some feedback about the process to make it successful.

There is a big difference from giving your opinion and giving effective feedback. Saying you hate something doesn't help people know what to adjust. Telling people everything that is wrong doesn't help them know what you do like.

With change, you have a right to share welcomed feedback, just do it in a constructive way. Share what is working, what can be improved and what is your suggested solution. This helps everyone involved to use the information for the greater good.

I would love to hear stories about how you embraced change in your life and found success.  Please feel free to share your experiences in the comments below.

Based in Orlando, Fla., Michael Moniz is a life coach focusing on the LGBT community. Holding undergraduate and graduate degrees in communication from Rollins College in Winter Park, Fla., he is also ICF-certified as a professional life coach.  His practice helps others with self-image, communication skills, self-leadership and setting and achieving goals. Check Michael's website for more information and to schedule private consultations.

Do you have a question about how to improve your life? Send an e-mail to [email protected]

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