Bummed Out And Getting Over It

I’m going to be honest. I don’t feel like writing this article. And the reason why is that I’m bummed out, which in turn makes me not motivated to do much but sit, pout, and stamp my feet screaming “Life’s not fair!” Without getting too personal I feel like certain things in my life are nowhere near where I would like them to be. And it doesn’t seem like that is going to change any time soon. So I’m depressed and frustrated and don’t feel like writing. I know that when I feel this way there a certain things that help snap me out of this funk:

1. EXERCISE: I know. Of course the fitness guy is going to say that. But it’s true. When I have a good workout I feel a little better. Not “running up a hill-spinning around with my arms wide open-and singing The Sound of Music”-better, but better. When working out the body pumps out endorphins which is a chemical that enhances one’s mood. I also am around people, and having some kind of social interaction makes me feel like I’m not alone. When I work out I also feel like I have accomplished something for the day which helps swing the mood into a more positive direction.

2. BEING OUTSIDE: I’m fortunate that I live in Southern California and a good amount of days are sunny and warm. There’s something about the sun shining on my face that just makes me feel good. Of course applying sunscreen will help keep my skin from getting all wrinkly and protect me from the harmful UV rays. It also ensures that I get my Vitamin D for the day. Two of my favorite outdoor activities are hiking and rollerblading at the beach.

3. LISTEN TO MUSIC. But not just any music. To get me out of my funk I need music that lifts my spirit with its inspirational lyrics. Songs that remind me to appreciate each day that I am given to be alive (Martina McBride “Blessed” or Tim McGraw “Live Like You Were Dying”.), that hard times make me stronger (Carrie Underwood “Lessons Learned”), and that each day brings the opportunity of change (Leona Lewis “Better in Time” or Paula Abdul “Promise of a New Day”.). Of course there are times when a good “screw you!” type of song also uplifts as well (The Pussycat Dolls “I Don’t Need a Man”).

4. TALKING IT OUT: I’m blessed with a great family and some really good friends. So sometimes I just use them to let it all out. However I have to be careful that I don’t take advantage of their kind ears because I don’t want to be known as that guy who does nothing but complain. In really tough times taking advantage of a professional (therapist) is probably best. That way I can complain all I want and not have to worry about bombarding someone with my problems.

Hmmm…looks like I finished my article! How about that? Finishing this has made me feel a little better too. Thanks guys!

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A.C.E.- and N.A.S.M.-certified, Bobby Solorio has been personal training for over 10 years. You might recognize him from Bravo TV's "Kathy Griffin: My Life
on the D-List," where he trains his now-A-list client. For more info check out Bobby's website.