Oscar Watch: 10 Gay Movie Dads We Love

By: Joe Thompson
2.23.2012

Sunday's Acadamy Awards ceremony will be the weekend's top buzz, and amidst all the news and nominees and red carpet gowns, our focus is on Christopher Plummer. At 82 this seasoned actor has offered audiences many fantastic performances, but it was his role in Beginners that may earn him the Best Supporting Actor Oscar. Plummer plays a father and closeted homosexual who comes out after a 44-year marriage to a woman, and this got us thinking of other gay roles that earned Oscars. We immediately turned to Brokeback Mountain, which featured two men who were gay, in love, and eventually had children themselves—not together, but they were still dads.

Were there more in this select category?

We came up with a list of ten gay dads we love in movies. Some of them are well known, some are amusing-yet-somewhat-accurate when labeled a gay father (or "daddy"), and then there are some on the list where it's clear we're scraping the bottom for ideas. Check them out, and let us know if we skipped your favorite.

Beginners (2010)
Writer/director Mike Mills created a film loosely based on his own experiences. Beginners tells the story of Oliver (Ewan McGregor), whose father Hal (Christopher Plummer) comes out after being married to Oliver's mother for 44 years. As Oliver sees his father finally living life to the fullest, he must deal with the sudden news that Hal has cancer and may not be long for this world.

Noah's Arc: Jumping the Broom (2008)
Based on the LOGO television series Noah's Arc, this feature film finds Noah Nichols (Darryl Stephens) and crew (Or "arc"—get it?) headed to Martha's Vineyard for Noah's marriage to Wade Robinson (Jensen Atwood). Alex (Rodney Chester) goes along while his husband Trey (Gregory Kieth) stays at home because he has to babysit their newly adopted Ethiopian child. And Alex isn't just your typical, sterile gay dad, he's a pill-popping parent, making him just like many housewives we've seen in countless movies.

Patrik, Age 1.5 (2008)
This Swedish comedy–drama came out a couple years ago but just got U.S. distribution last year. It follows a gay couple who adopt what they believe will be their first baby, named Patrik. However, there's an error on the adoption documents, and instead of getting a year and a half old (1.5) they get a 15-year-old troubled teenager. Hilarity, and a healthy does of sweetness, ensues.

Brokeback Mountain (2005)
Probably the most well-known gay movie, this romantic drama from director Ang Lee centers around two cowboys (Heath Ledger, Jake Gyllenhaal) who fall in love and continue their relationship while having wives (Anne Hathaway, Michelle Williams) and children back home. This gem was nominated for eight Academy Awards, the most nominations for that year, and it won Best Director, Best Adapted Screenplay, and Best Original Score. It also scored a Golden Lion at the Venice Film Festival, Best Picture and Best Director from the British Academy of Film and Television Arts, Golden Globe Awards, Producers Guild of America Awards, Critics Choice Awards, and Independent Spirit Awards among many accolades organizations and festivals.

Transamerica (2005)
Bree (Felicity Huffman) is a transsexual woman who discovers she has a long-lost son named Toby (Kevin Zegers), a small-time drug user and male hustler. Bree goes on a road trip with the young man so she can finally get to know him and the truth eventually comes out. We mean no disrespect to our trans-brothers and sisters with this one, but technically Bree was Toby's father at one time. And Bree's therapist does refuse permission for her to get a vaginoplasty until she deals with this parental situation, so it all kind of fits the sketchy theme we're building here. Plus, Huffman got an Academy Award-nomination and Golden Globe-win for her performance.

Gods and Monsters (1998)
It may be our greatest stretch on this list, but we think it fits. The drama recounts the (somewhat fictionalized) last days of troubled film director James Whale (Ian McKellen), who lived a grand-yet-secretive gay life in Hollywood. Whale befriends his young, handsome gardener and former Marine, Clayton Boone (Brendan Fraser), and a kind of mentor/mentee relationship is created, though it often looked like a daddy/boy kind of thing to us. The darkly tragic ending also shows how Boone saw Whale as almost a father figure. The film won the Academy Award for Best Adapted Screenplay, McKellen was nominated for Best Actor in a Leading Role, and Lynn Redgrave was nominated for Best Actress in a Supporting Role.

The Birdcage (1996)
The American remake of the 1978 Franco-Italian film La Cage aux Folles focuses on Val Goldman (Dan Futterman) and Barbara Keeley (Calista Flockhart), a young couple who are engaged to be married. They want their parents to meet, the only problem is that Barbara's parents are ultra-conservative, while Val's father Armand (Robin Williams) owns a South Beach drag club called The Birdcage and his partner Albert (Nathan Lane) regularly performs there as "Starina." Hilarity ensues (allegedly).

The Adventures of Priscilla, Queen of the Desert (1994)
A drag-tastic Australian comedy-drama that follows three girls on an adventure: Anthony "Tick" Belrose (Hugo Weaving) is drag performer "Mitzi Del Bra," Bernadette Basinger (Terence Stamp) is a recently bereaved transsexual woman, and Adam Whitely (Guy Pearce) is an obnoxious young drag queen named "Felicia Jollygoodfellow." The trio cross Australia on a tour bus they name "Priscilla, Queen of the Desert," but when they reach their destination it's revealed that Tick has an eight-year-old son. He's a gay dad who also loves playing dress up.

Torch Song Trilogy (1988)
This comedy-drama adapted by Harvey Fierstein from his play was a groundbreaking feature film and starred respected actors at a time when it wasn't popular to be associated with LGBT projects. It centers around Arnold (Harvey Fierstein), a New York female impersonator, who meets bisexual teacher Ed (Brian Kerwin); sadly, Ed can't handle the gay side of life and leaves Arnold. CUT TO years later when Arnold meets male model Alan (Matthew Broderick), the two fall in love and apply to foster a child together; tragically, something bad happens, and we don't want to spoil it if you ain't seen it. Months later, Arnold's mother (Anne Bancroft) visits, which leads to a major confrontation about homosexuality, as well as the meaning of love and family in these changing times. Gay teenager David (Eddie Castrodad) is adopted, offering another example of gay parents.

The Rocky Horror Picture Show (1975)
Yes, this rock musical parody of B-movie, science fiction and horror films became a cult hit, and gays especially loved the sexual transgressive themes throughout. But when you think about it, Dr. Frank-N-Furter (Tim Curry), the self-proclaimed "sweet transvestite" from Transsexual, Transylvania created Rocky (Peter Hinwood). He is, in essence, Rocky's father. And yes, he created Rocky for a sexy good time and that implies a certain level of incest, but the movie also features adultery, cannibalism, aliens, murder, and an incredible soundtrack—so we're okay with having Frank-N-Furter and Rocky Horror being the closers to our big gay dads list.

Comments

Ted 3.18.2012 5:17:00 AM

I like the original La Cage aux Folles. I've seen the first two. I've never seen the third one. I know the 3rd one was released in English dubbed version. I prefer the French with subtitles. I saw the a dubbed version of the 1st La Cage film and the voices in English are terrible. I like Robin Williams. I wouldn't mind if he were my Daddy. He's hot and sexy. Even for his age now with that hairy chest. He's one sexy Bear. Who wouldn't want Christopher Plummer as a Daddy and Ewan McGregor as a son? Christopher Plummer is still sexy at his age. You failed to include father in Billy Elliot. He was a working class Dad that accept his son's desire to be a dancer. Every one needs a father like this guy. He first thought Billy would like Boxing, but the boy found a dance class and after his father found out that Billy wasn't going to Boxing classes he eventually changed his mind. It surprised me when the other fathers also became proud of Billy getting accepted into the dance academy. This is the type of fathers everyone should have in a working class families.

rick 3.3.2012 4:21:00 AM

Definitely watch -'The Sum Of Us'. Possibly the best gay movie ever with a young Russell Crowe in the lead as the gay (and very out) son.

Anonymous 3.2.2012 2:08:00 PM

I do not find the pictures/snap shots of Gods and Monsters (1998) representative of the movie...

HuskyMuscularLatinTOP 2.28.2012 10:11:00 AM

Forgot 3:

"Another Country" 80's film starring Rupert Everette, Carey Elwes and Colin Firth when they were very young and HOT!

"Maurice" 80's film starring starring Hugh Grant as a closeted gay.

"Less Than Zero" 1988 starring Robert Downey, Jr as a Hollywood male hustler.

STEFANO 2.26.2012 7:25:00 AM

"piume di struzzo" is the italian name of "The Birdcage"

briefman 2.25.2012 5:41:00 PM

There's also "Mulligans"....a great movie of a dad who comes out...actually gets caught with his sons best friend...then there's "Big Eden" - a dad struggling with his sexuality....they may be a B rated and not a well high profile movies, nevertheless, they are movies and I really enjoyed watching them......

alphamx 2.26.2012 11:32:00 AM

yea, i saw that film, was good. wish had seen it on the list.

Jp 2.25.2012 11:14:00 AM

If you want to see an incredible gay dad, take a look at "In the Family" in movie theaters now. Check out the reviews, you'll see.

Smokey 2.24.2012 10:06:00 PM

Some other "dad" movies include "Wilde," "An Angel Named Billy," "Breakfast with Scot," "Regarding Billy," and "Hairspray."

"Wilde": The story of Oscar Wilde who was a father. Stephen Fry is great as Oscar.
"An Angel Named Billy": Billy, a gay teen, is hired to take care of a father who I
thought was gay until late in the move. A great love story and a real teat jerker.
"Breakfast With Scot": A gay couple become guardians of Scot, an 11 year old boy
whose flame burns brighter than most.
"Regarding Billy": A 20 something gay man's parents die suddenly and he becomes
guardian to his early teens developmentally delayed brother.
"Hairspray": Divine plays tracy's mother and other characters. Need you ask?

royboi 2.24.2012 8:50:00 PM

There is no comparison between the original "La Cage" and Birdcage. Birdcage simply doesn't have the panache and style of the original. Perhaps something was lost in the translation mmmmm.

Steven 2.25.2012 3:29:00 AM

Sorry, but the Birdcage was an upbeat improvement to the original La Cage movie. The French version never did vibrate with North America although it definitely resonated with the Europe. The witty updated script in the Birdcage still resonates today (especially with current USA politics). :)

Craigaleo 2.25.2012 12:06:00 PM

I always referred to it as "La Cage AwFul"

Ken 2.26.2012 10:07:00 AM

Birdcage was an awful remake of a fabulous film. It was more hollywood schlock and stereotype where as the original had more "real" characters. and if it didn't make it big in the U.S. , how come we've all seen it?

Anonymous 2.24.2012 8:33:00 PM

brian cox in "the lost language of cranes" - "daddy," indeed. yum!

Anonymous 2.24.2012 8:13:00 PM

What about "The Sum of Us" ...Jack Thompson played a good role of being supportive dad.

ymat 2.24.2012 6:08:00 PM

I felt that the original La Cage Aux Folles was 10 times better than The Birdcage
the subtitles added to the fun and the acting was great because they were unknown
and had nothing to loose

Antonio 2.24.2012 8:57:00 PM

I totally agreed with you, La Cage Aux Folles was a superb comedy.

allanjd3418 2.24.2012 4:46:00 PM

Noah's Arc was so far from any kind of reality that it shouldn't even be listed, Notice that Queer as Folk isn't here and probably for the same reason.

T 2.24.2012 8:56:00 PM

"Queer As Folk" had NO characters who were parents. "Noah's Arch" included that dimension of gay life with the gay nuclear family. That's why it's included in this list

Anonymous 3.1.2012 11:17:00 PM

Queer As Folk.....Brian fathered a baby with the girls :)

MikeShawn 2.27.2012 9:42:00 AM

Brian Kinney was the donor for Melanie and Lindsay's firstborn son, "Gus". Michael was the donor and became legal father to Lindsay's and Melanie second child/daughter "Jenny Rebecca". Michael and Ben Novotny-Bruckner would later adopt a son, "James 'Hunter' Montgomery". He later changed his name, "James 'Hunter' Novotny-Bruckner".

Anonymous 2.25.2012 9:59:00 AM

Brian was a dad

Steven 2.25.2012 3:30:00 AM

Hello? QAF had no gay parents? The USA version had 2 lesbian moms plus the later storyline with Mike and Ben adopting the teenage street boy. Gay parenting was a storyline that spanned all 5 years of the series.

Anonymous 2.24.2012 10:58:00 PM

let's see brian had a son and michael had a daughter. how does that make zero parents? plus michael and ben adopted hunter. by my count there are 3 gay dads

Mike 2.25.2012 4:30:00 AM

The only reason why Queer As Folk isn't on the list is the fact that it is not a movie nor made to movie. Had QAF had a movie, then it would be on the list. I know this response should be directed to another comment but I'm staying with the thread. I almost questioned NA but Chance is a step father to his husband, I forgot name, daughter; and Alex and forgot name again( I need sleep) adopted a boy.

Nico 2.24.2012 1:39:00 PM

How about Jim Carrey's character in I LOVE YOU, PHILLIP MORRIS? A great movie, but I get the feeling that no one has seen it.

http://www.phillipmorrismovie.net/

joewhitebird 2.25.2012 12:33:00 PM

Love the movie and Jim but let's not forget hottie Ewan McGregor !!

Anonymous 2.24.2012 10:51:00 PM

i absolutely love that movie to death.. best jim carey movie ever!!

Thomas 2.24.2012 5:46:00 PM

I agree with you. They did not had that movie in theater here in USA.

Steve R 2.25.2012 10:20:00 AM

I agree with this comment. I'm not a fan of Jim Carrey at all, but in 'I Love You, Philip Morris', he was brilliant. He didn't play it to ridiculous excess, as he normally does.

Grant Devereaux 2.24.2012 12:20:00 PM

Sad that the movies listed go back some 37 years. Odd that you have to go back a couple of generations to find ten gay movies that were good enough to list.

Anonymous 2.24.2012 12:03:00 PM

I have seen most, if not all these movies and I am such a fan! I do hope they make more....

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Anonymous 2.24.2012 11:14:00 AM

Let's not forget Paul Sorvino as Gino Barberini in Mambo Italiano. A wonderful performance of a family coming to terms with their gay son, and Mr. Sorvino's character really shines in this movie. Not to mention, as an aside note, some of the most hysterical wallpaper in any movie!!

Bob Amsel 2.24.2012 12:00:00 PM

I agree. Mambo Italiano is a terrific comedy, and I recommend it to everyone, but the author of this article is stressing gay parents and not straight ones with gay children.

Anonymous 2.24.2012 10:45:00 AM

no mention of Too Wong Foo..Patrick Swayze "mothers" the two younger cohorts, and entire small town. A stretch, but worthy of mention. thought of Philadelphia and "and the band played on" but, if memory serves, neither were fathers.

joewhitebird 2.25.2012 12:35:00 PM

Love Too Wong Fu what a great movie, very campy but fun.

Armandy 2.24.2012 9:01:00 AM

Brokeback Mountain,I think that it is the best of them all.

Joseph 2.24.2012 8:12:00 AM

The very least you could've done was to list BOTH "The Birdcage" and "La Cage" (maybe as a tie?). While the "remake" acknowledgement was good, having the original film IN the list would've been much better. (Especially as the original film went on to have a couple of sequels.)

joewhitebird 2.25.2012 12:46:00 PM

I think you're missing the point, The Birdcage was a comedy and I'm don't think the original qualifies as comedy. I personally thought the original was awful, boring as hell and I hate subtitles. However it was a European Movie and I'm not European, I think our culture has a lot to do with judgement on this movie. Of course trashing The Bird Cage makes some people feel superior.

Anonymous 2.24.2012 8:52:00 AM

Plus the original is VASTLY better than the remake --the remake's all-star cast notwithstanding.

Anonymous 2.24.2012 8:06:00 AM

fyi

Casey 2.24.2012 8:48:00 AM

FYI? What are you trying to say here?
You give no information on what you you are wanting to say in your comment.

Kiki Rose 2.24.2012 9:07:00 AM

... Who cares? lol.

miguel 2.24.2012 7:04:00 PM

LMFAO, Dude i know right

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