Reader Guide: Arn on Kansas City, MO


Arn1 My name: Arn Member Name: arnkcmo
My age: 60
My profession: Part time cashier
City/town: Kansas City, MO
Relationship status: Dating
Sexuality: Gay

Where is the best public place for a gay person to make out there?

Several parks.

What's the nearest city to "let loose" in, and on what occasion do you go there?


How "out" are you where you live?

Not at all.

Other than bars or clubs, where to people cruise in your town? Or don't they?

Missie Bee, Buddies and Sidekicks.

Are there enough guys to date in your town?

Yes, but with attitude.

If you had the money to open up a gay business or establishment in your town, what would it be, and why?

A darn good class of gay bar/lounge/dance. For gays to learn what upscale is all about and mostly for them to have a safe place to meet and have fun. To be able to treat friends and co-workers in a safe environment and have fun.

When you think of meeting and falling in love with "the one," do you envision the two of you settling down where you currently live? Or does that fantasy involve another town?

They'll make the place no matter where. Things to consider is job for both, family and friends; how far is how far? And if, they can sit and find a common ground as to where to relocate.

What do you consider the "most romantic" part of where you live? Why?

Downtown; it has history, moments in time where the settlers decided to stay here and form families and this community.

If you could be Mayor of your town for one day, what would be the very first thing you'd want to accomplish or do?

I would emphasize on education, especially on homosexuality, scientifically and historically. Great accomplishments have been with homosexuals in history, arts, science, politics. To educate people about homosexuality. And also, to address the homosexual/bi/trasgender/transvestite population about responsible social issues and behavior, as well as civic and voluntarism.

If you could move, would you? If so, where would you want to move, and why?

I'm moving from KC, MO to Richmond, VA. He found me and we've been talking about and we're still working on it. School and job are the major issues to me.

Do gay men and lesbians hang out together in your town or is that just unheard of?

Some, a small segment is that open.

Arn2 Has your town ever had a "gay scandal?"

Not that I can recall now.

Do you have a hometown crush?

As mentioned before, he lives in VA, so I'm moving with him.

What are some of the things you love most about your town?

Some people are open minded and history. KC is known as the "The City of Fountains."

What are some great restaurants for a romantic gay date?

I haven't been at any yet, after 8yrs+. But There are some nice ones that I haven't heard of.

What was the last vacation you took? Where did you go? Where do you most want to go?

My best friend and I went up to New England for a week of 4 July 2004. And we visited my family in NJ.

What are your favorite gay bars and/or dance clubs?

There was the best, "Vabaret," and DB; they went out thanks to mismanagement. The Missie Bee is the most decent one left, MY OPINION. There are others that I don't know the names and where they are located.

What is the gay community like there? Do you consider yourself to be part of any particular "scene?"

The gay community here is diverse, but mostly new age/era. We, the older generation, we have done our part on paving the road for the new generation; remember" Stone Wall."

If you had gay friends visiting from out of town for the first time, what are some "must-dos" you'd recommend?

Well, have arrangements as to where to stay and for how long. Then tentatively schedule to take'em to the most interesting parts/sites of town; historical, best stores,restaurants, shopping places (malls,centers, etc) but don't overdo it.

Where do the hot boys in your town tend to hang out?

Some of the gay bars, but also the malls.

What bar has the cutest/hottest bartenders?

Mmmmmmm that's a tuff one. It used to be Dixie Bell (DB) and Cabaret, but they're no longer in business.

Most of the gay population, as typical of Kansas City, there's a tendency of obesity/extra lbs. but still some who take care of themselves and frequent the gyms, and work on their diets.

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