Reader Guide: Joshua on Arlington, VA


My name: Joshua
My age: 26
My profession: Lobbyist
City/town: Arlington, VA
Relationship status: In a Relationship
Sexuality: Gay

Where is the best public place for a gay person to make out there?

In my own opinion, anywhere. I don't believe in "sanctioned" make-out places. This world is ours as much as it is anybody else's.

What's the nearest city to "let loose" in, and on what occasion do you go there?

Washington, DC - right across the river. I actually don't go into the city as much as I used to. For a while, it started to seem like all the gay bars there were the same, so my boyfriend and I stopped going as much and started going to a local gay haunt in Crystal City called "Freddie's". However, in the past few months we've started go back into the city more often.

How "out" are you where you live?


Other than bars or clubs, where to people cruise in your town?

I'm not completely sure but I know there have been some cruisy-sightings up in my local gym.

Joshua2 Are there enough guys to date in your town?

Yeah, I would think so.

If you had the money to open up a gay business or establishment in your town, what would it be, and why?

I would definitely open up another gay bar (or club, even) in Arlington - probably on Metro's orange line. We have a significant gay population here in Arlington but only one place (Freddie's), and that's on the blue line down towards the airport.

What do you consider the "most romantic" part of where you live? Why?

I would say nearby DC has all the "capital charm" and the monuments. But I guess that's more touristy. Romantic is what you make of it. There are some nice, romantic restaurants downtown.

If you could be Mayor of your town for one day, what would be the very first thing you'd want to accomplish or do?

Bring more businesses to older parts of Arlington. Make non-metro accessible neighborhoods accessible by reliable bus service.

If you could move, would you? If so, where would you want to move, and why?

Sure, and I want to move someday. I would love to live in New York or Chicago for a spell.

Do gay men and lesbians hang out together in your town or is that just unheard of?

It's not unheard of, but it's rare. I find that there's a huge "camaraderie" rift between gays and lesbians in Greater Washington, DC. They are in their own camps, and they really don't seem to mind that it works out that way. I think gays and lesbians are more unified in smaller towns because they don't have as big of a support system.

Joshua Joshua3 Has your town ever had a "gay scandal?"

It's Washington, DC. What do you think?

Do you have a hometown crush?

I'm not completely sure what this means. Sandra Bullock is from Arlington!

What are some of the things you love most about your town?

The urban environment, the neighborhoods, the transportation systems and the low crime rate.

What are some great restaurants for a romantic gay date?

Carlyle Grand Cafe in Shirlington.

What was the last vacation you took? Where did you go? Where do you most want to go?

I went to the Outer Banks with my partner and some friends. While it's certainly not known for being "gay-friendly" (there are no gay bars or clubs on the entire island), it is a beautiful place that I go back to every year.

Joshua4 What are your favorite gay bars and/or dance clubs?

Nellie's and Cobalt in DC, Grand Central in Baltimore.

What is the gay community like there? Do you consider yourself to be part of any particular "scene?"

There are so many micro-scenes here in Arlington and DC that it would be impossible to name them all. As a gay people, we are certainly expanding from the stereotypes that we somewhat assigned ourselves to in the 70's and 80's. More often than not, my "scene" is the non-gay world - and not that it is void of gay people, but the focus is not on that aspect.

If you had gay friends visiting from out of town for the first time, what are some "must-dos" you'd recommend?

It depends on whether they are boys or girls, but I almost always take them to Freddie's.

Where do the hot boys in your town tend to hang out?

They are everywhere. That's a popular misconception about DC - we have a ton of cute ones here.

What bar has the cutest/hottest bartenders?

That's a tough one. I'd have to say the bartenders at "Town" on U St.

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